This is one of the most common questions people ask me.
Life Coaching is basically a form of counselling but it's forward thinking, not regressive.
At the core it's about 3 questions:
1. Where are you now?
2. Where would you like to be?
3. How do we get you there?
Think of it as a really supportive mentor in your corner who's supporting you to become your best, most empowered, confident, motivated and grounded self.
Someone who wants you to be able to look back on your life and say:
'Yeah, that was pretty awesome. I led a fulfilling life filled with rich experiences, relationships and purposeful work. Yay me.'
Will a Life Coach Dig into my Past?
A life coach doesn't spend much time in the past to figure out why you're screwed up 'cause let's face it, we've all got 'stuff'. The coaching model isn't about figuring out what's wrong with you or interested in labelling you with anything or in keeping you coming back for months on end.
Coaching is about getting you to where you want to be.
Sometimes we'll talk about why you might have developed some limiting beliefs that may be holding you back, stuff from your upbringing or past relationships but the idea is always to help you move forward unencumbered.
Think of your brain like a garden. You have to pull the weeds before you can plant some pretty flowers. :)
How Much Time Will I Typically Spend with a Life Coach?
It differs from one person to the next but typically it lasts anywhere from about a month to 3 months unless there's a goal that needs to be reached that will take longer and requires ongoing support. Sessions are usually once a week on the phone or in person for about an hour and usually have assignments in between. Most coaches also offer email support.
Often clients will achieve some growth in as little as 3 to 5 sessions. Others find that an online mastermind life course offered by a coach of their choice is really helpful as it covers so many aspects and then they just book in-person sessions as needed.
Why do People Hire a Life Coach?
People seek out a life coach for a variety of reasons. Here are some examples of people I've supported:
- My job sucks, I want a new career and don't know where to start.
- I feel pulled in too many directions, need to manage my time and learn to say no.
- My relationship isn't working, I want to fix it - I want out - I want a new one.
- I need help communicating more assertively and giving feedback without causing conflict.
- I feel inadequate, discouraged, demotivated or stressed out and need help to get out of this funk.
- I want to manage my stress and anxiety.
- I want to achieve a goal like getting a degree or pass an interview or move.
- I want to lose weight or be healthier.
- I want to feel more purpose in my life overall.
How Do I Find the Right Coach for Me?
Life coaching encompasses a lot of different areas but what's most important is that you find someone who's the right fit for you. Some people feel more comfortable with a woman or a man, someone older or younger, whatever is more relatable for you. Some prefer a coach with a personal approach, someone down-to-earth and willing to share their own experiences of overcoming challenges while others prefer someone a little more removed who sticks to a more traditional approach like many conventional therapists. Some also prefer someone who specializes in a specific field. There's no one size fits all.
'I Think I'd Be a Great Life Coach!'
Since the coaching industry isn't regulated, it's important to do a little research.
Becoming a life coach has become somewhat popular and I get a lot of calls from people asking me to have coffee to find out how I got into (and managed to stay in) the business.
Some think they'll be good coaches because they're good at giving advice or care a lot about people. But coaching isn't about giving personal advice or feeling sorry for people. You want to ensure that you learn the tools to empower others to get to where they want to be. This means earning verified credentials from a reputable institution and not just getting an online certificate over a weekend. (I trained with the Empowerment Institute in NY with world recognized leaders and authors in the empowerment coaching industry, Gail Straub and David Gershon). Typically a certified life coach will have undergone a year of training that includes a practicum of a minimum of 3 to 4 clients and they themselves will have been coached by a trained mentor that continues to be available to them for support if needed.
Not everyone should be a life coach but I will say that at some point in our lives, we could definitely all use one. :)
Any other questions are always welcome!
Yours in growth and endless adventures,